Who Am I??? | Get to Know Skully

I’m trying to get more serious with my videos and YouTube channel, so I made a video about who I am outside of my pregnancy vlogs! Some of this you might know but other parts might be a surprise!

I’d love to hear some other video topics you’d like me to cover! You can comment below, on the video itself, or email me at skully@skullyinspace.com!

2 Weeks Postpartum | Body & Health

It’s been 2 weeks already since Emery was born and I’m noticing major changes in my body already! Keep in mind, I have not started a fitness routine yet, unless you count chasing around kids all day long and cleaning! The results I’ve gotten are from breastfeeding and healthier eating. This is also day 3 of me cutting dairy out of my diet to try to help relieve some fussiness for little man!

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I’ve still got a long ways to go, and I hope to make a video soon about the exercises I’ll be doing to heal my diastasis recti issue! Diastasis Recti is where there’s a gap in your abdominals and it gives you that extra pooch in your stomach, even when your abs are hardened. It happens to a lot of pregnant moms and I actually had this issue after my last pregnancy but never knew it was an issue until looking things up this time around!

My body is healing pretty nicely. Although I’m at that stage where (TMI alert!) the bleeding will seem to be gone and then come back heavily again. My midwife said that means I’m doing too much, but honestly with  3 kids, I still feel like I’m not doing enough! I don’t see how I could take it any easier! My nipples are sore from breastfeeding still but not as bad as week 1. I do get sharp pains from time to time from being engorged (too much milk in boobs) but it usually goes away after feeding. There pain in my boobs when the baby cries too, but only when he cries because he’s hungry. It’s seriously the weirdest thing!

My diet has changed immensely since I had the baby. I cut out red meat a little while ago, but have also decided to cut out all other meats as well, except for eggs. I’m slowly working my way to going vegan but I want to take it slow. Every time I just jump into things full force I always give up after a week or two. I wasn’t expecting to have to cut dairy out of my diet so soon either but Emery was showing signs of dairy allergies so I am on day 3 of no dairy. That is the hardest change I’ve had to make by far. I’m obsessed with pretty much all things dairy related so it’s going to be tough. I’m surviving though. I also heard it takes about 2 weeks to flush your system of dairy so I won’t see much change in Emery for about that long as well. I really hope it helps him because the poor kid is so gassy and fussy right now.

Mentally I’m doing ok. It’s pretty rough not getting enough sleep and trying to take care of 3 kids and a husband. I’ve definitely had little to no “me” time since he’s been born and I expect it to be a long time before I get any time to myself. What I’m really missing most is time with my husband. At the end of the day we are both too tired to do anything and we fall asleep as soon as the baby does. Any time we have had in social situations, James tends to go socialize while I’m left to find out who has the baby, is the baby hungry, did so and so wash their hands before holding the baby, etc. I do still resent him a little for getting to have so much time to himself, but I try not to say anything to keep the peace.

So that is pretty much where I’m at for my 2 week postpartum update! I will probably keep up with the weekly updates until I hit 1 month, then just do monthly updates. Unless you guys want to continue hearing about the weekly stuff? Let me know in the comments!

PS. I’m not a doctor, so as always, anything I talk about here you should discuss with your doctor if you have any questions. All the info I’ve gotten has been found among YouTube and Pinterest!

 

 

 

My Emotional State After Having A Baby

Obviously having a baby is an emotional roller coaster. From the time you find out you’re pregnant, to the time they are, maybe 30? All I know is you hear so much about hormones and lack of sleep and crazy mood swings. Up until about day 4 I was ecstatic! My baby was finally here, I couldn’t stop looking at him, I got maybe a couple hours of sleep a night and didn’t care because he was just so precious!

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But once day 4 hit, things started to get more stressful. My milk had come in around day 2 and he wanted to eat a lot. My nipples were extremely sore, and even had blisters from him not latching on properly every time. He also started getting really gassy. He would be up all night crying because his belly hurt, and at the time we didn’t know that’s what his problem was. I just thought he was still hungry so I kept feeding him which made things worse.

My husband started getting upset because he has to work so early in the morning and he was losing sleep. I felt like a bad mom because I didn’t know what to do. I also resented my husband for even being able to sleep at all because I sure wasn’t. We were scared with all the sicknesses going around that he was going to get sick so that was also stressful. Things were getting more and more hectic.

Then to top it all off, my husband took 2 days off of work (yes, only 2) and his boss was throwing a fit. Threatening to write him up for unexcused absences and whatnot. So he had to go back to work, leaving me very sore, exhausted, and taking care of 3 kids by myself. I quickly went from being over the moon happy to scared, stressed, and sad. I was afraid that it was going to turn into PPD (postpartum depression) which scared me even more.

We are 1 day shy of being 2 weeks postpartum and I’m feeling a little better. I was told to cut dairy out of my diet which would help with little man’s fussiness/gas, and we are figuring out ways to console him. We took him to the doctor which was a complete waste of time. She had no clue how to “handle” a home birth baby, and it cost $65 for her to tell us he’s losing weight, only to find out he’s actually gained half a pound. Can you believe she actually wanted us to pay another $65 just to come back and get weighed again? Needless to say, we won’t be going back.

The other things that are starting to get to me involve family life. Realizing that it will be a long time before my husband and I are able to have a night out again. Or even lay in bed at night watching a show alone. Also, I went and applied for a pretty good job at UPS requiring me to lift 70 lbs consistently and at 3 weeks postpartum, I have an interview/orientation set up. On one hand, I desperately want to make money to help my husband out with bills. On the other hand, my schedule will be as follows:

  • wake up, get Caiden ready for school.
  • take care of the baby and Roman all day long while simultaneously cleaning the house and rel=“nofollow”pumping milk so that the baby can eat while I’m at work.
  • make dinner.
  • Go to work at 5pm.
  • Come home, wake up several times during the night with the baby.
  • Then repeat the process again the next day.

I would get weekends off which is cool, but I’m afraid that’s going to be too much for me to do so soon after having him. If I get hurt, I could risk not being able to get a job for a significant amount of time, or worse, not be able to take care of my kids. But if I can make it work, we could save a lot of money to start getting our tiny house plans into motion.

At this point, my plan is to try it out and hope for the best. I feel pretty good physically at this point. Not to say I’m totally healed but I feel good. I’m starting some minor exercises to get me used to moving and hopefully prepare myself a little more for the job. Cutting out dairy has really limited my food intake so I’m going to need to find more ways to get energy to be able to do it. Plus with the breastfeeding the baby is taking just about all the energy I have!

So yeah, that’s pretty much how I’m doing emotionally. I will also be trying to keep my YouTube channel updated with how we are doing for those of you who prefer to watch videos and not read! Thank you to those of you who are supporting me in any way! I appreciate the hell out of you guys.

 

Postpartum Body | Week 1!

The first week after having the baby was weird. I went from being super sore the first 2-3 days, to not being sore and trying to do too much. Which in turn caused me to bleed extra. Yay, super fun. NOT!

Anyways, I wanted to share with everyone my postpartum body photos for a couple reasons. One, to be able to look back at my own photos and see how far I’ve come and two, to be able to shed some light on how the body looks after giving birth! Many of you ladies have thanked me for sharing the photos because you didn’t know what happened to a woman’s body after having a baby. I’m so glad at least some of you were able to learn something from it!

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Having a baby is hard work, and with each additional child you have it gets harder to get back in shape. Unless you had an awesome diet and exercise routine your entire pregnancy, it is unlikely you will have a flat stomach again right after your baby is born. This was my 3rd child and I feel very lucky that my body even looks the way it does right now! Breastfeeding has helped for sure.

Did you also know that there is something called diastasis recti that happens to a lot of women after birth? It’s where the abdominal muscles have a gap in them and make it so that last bit of “pooch” won’t go away. I had no idea this was a thing and actually struggled with this after my last pregnancy. I would exercise like crazy, not understanding why it wouldn’t go away! But there are specific exercises that you can do, as well as avoid, to help you fix that issue! I will eventually post some links to those but right now I’m too lazy so just go check it out on Pinterest lol…

I will say that the exercises I will be doing to help are hip thrusts or bridges, heel slides, side plank (using knees and forearm), leg lifts, as well as some yoga poses to help tighten my abs back into position! All of these I found on Pinterest and there are photos on there as well to help you understand how to properly do them.

Aside from exercise, diet is a major goal of mine. Not cutting calories, because with breastfeeding you need to get 500 extra calories a day to feed baby! But I have cut red meat out of my diet and am only eating chicken and eggs. I’m eating as many green veggies as I can including salads, cucumbers, broccoli (not too much or it could upset baby’s stomach!), and green peppers. I’m getting more protein from seeds/nuts such as sunflower seeds and almonds. I’ve also decided to cut out the “good” stuff like breads and pastas. That is going to be the absolute hardest part for me but we will see how it goes!

So here is my first post regarding my postpartum body and how I’m going to go about getting back into shape! If you have any questions please ask! I’m not a pro, this is all just something I looked into and decided to do on my own. As always, ask your doctor before trying anything so no one gets hurt!

Much love,

Skully

Welcome to the World, Emery Jameson!

Emery Jameson born on 9/9/2016 at 2:04 am, weighing in at 8lbs 2oz and 20 and 1/4 inches long! We waited so long to meet him and he finally came! Cord was wrapped around his neck a couple times but he was perfectly healthy and lifting his head up seconds after being born! Photos were done by Unleaded Lens Photography!

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I will be making a labor vlog describing how i went into labor and give kind of a walk through of my homebirth experience! For now, here is the birth video, if you’d like to see it! Warning, it is raw footage so there are some graphic scenes!

This video is posted on the photographer’s channel, not mine. Subscribe to her after checking it out!

Prodromal Labor & Cramp Bark Tincture???

I’ve been trying to keep everyone updated and I think a lot of you have been checking out my Instagram update videos, but I wanted to go into more detail of the midwife visit and more false labor last night! IG only lets me record like, 30 seconds at a time.

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Here’s how the night started out:

I was having my usual contractions. They are getting stronger every day. But this time, I chugged about 6 bottles of water before dinner to see if dehydration was my problem, and it actually kept the painful and uncomfortable contractions away all day long! Until dinner. I started having a TON of pressure. Like, it felt like the baby not only dropped, but dropped HARD. That was followed by tons of contractions starting off uncomfortable, then around 7pm they became actually painful! I refused to time them for a while because they always go away when I go to bed.

By 9pm I was exhausted so I decided I’d go to bed early, especially since James had to go to bed early and go to work early in the morning. So I went to bed but at about 11 pm I was woken up to a really painful contraction. I felt like I had to pee SO bad so I tried to make it to the bathroom but was having a contraction so it was interesting. But yes, I did make it to the bathroom and didn’t pee all over myself!

At this point I was wide awake again thinking, “Ok, this is different. I’m being woken up now and that hasn’t happened yet so maybe this is it!” I didn’t want to time contractions but they were coming on pretty frequently so I did anyways.

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As you can see they weren’t SUPER regular, but they were pretty consistent. I texted this photo to my midwife who called me to ask a few questions. She wanted to know if they were painful. I told her yes and I now felt them in my cervix/lower back. I was also having hot flashes with each contraction. She heard me breathe through a contraction and said she was leaving another birth but would come over asap!

About an hour later she arrived and I was working through a pretty painful contraction on my birth ball. She checked the baby’s heartbeat which was good and he was extremely active as always. She then wanted to do an internal exam to see if I was dilating or anything.

  1. She said my cervix was still really thick.
  2. I was dilated to a 2 on the outside of my cervix, not dilated at all on the inside (I had no idea there was an outer and inner part!)
  3. She said his head is really low, right in position for the birth.
  4. When she pulled her fingers out I had my bloody show, which she said is probably just from her digging around in there. Such graceful terms LOL!

At that point she said I’m not in labor and she has no idea why I would be having contractions like this. She started packing up to go home. I could tell she felt bad for me and even gave me some Valerian Root Extract to help me sleep. I was so exhausted, physically and mentally. I started to tear up because I really thought this time was legitimately it. I was in more pain than ever before.

She said to pick up some Cramp Bark Tincture at the health food store to stop the contractions. I was kind of disappointed, like why would I want to STOP contractions at almost 39 weeks??? But obviously if they aren’t dilating me, and they are keeping me exhausted, they aren’t good to keep dealing with. I also looked it up and the tincture will actually regulate contractions. Meaning if they aren’t doing anything for me, they will stop them but they will help along REAL contractions. So I’m looking forward to getting some today now.

Has anyone else heard of this tincture before or used it? I’m wondering what other people have had experience with it. I’m all for natural remedies but this whole totally natural method of pregnancy and labor is so new to me!

I also want to thank everyone for all their positive thoughts and prayers. I know I sometimes get annoyed because people tell me to relax and rest and all that. Sorry I’m hormonal… and not everyone can understand what this is like. Hell, even I’m baffled, I was induced with both boys and had extremely easy times with them so this is not at all what I’m used to!